Finding lasting love means finding someone who makes you happy longterm. It sound simple, right? It's not, especially when you analyze US divorce data. In this talk, relationship expert Bela Gandhi teaches why successfully finding love means searching for a partner based on identifying the characteristics you need to be happy, not just the qualities we are wired to desire in a partner. Bela shows the audience how to cleverly create the right “checklist” for finding the love of your life. Bela Gandhi has been helping people find love since college, and founded a coaching company, Smart Dating Academy to help singles everywhere. She is a media expert on dating and relationships and has spoken on the topic on local and national news and talk shows. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx