We should resist invitations to argue by recognising them for what they are: attempts by the other party to rescue themselves from unbearable feelings.

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“However deep our theoretical commitment to serenity, in the course of an average day, we are likely to encounter a number of extremely wellcrafted invitations to lose our tempers badly.

Our partner will press a wellflagged nuclear button related, let’s imagine, to their views on our mother or our career choice. At work, a colleague may deliberately not answer a very simple question to which we urgently need an answer. A shop attendant may give us a bored, insolent shrug. Someone in the supermarket may falsely accuse us of standing in the wrong line…”


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