Many INFJ personality types describe themselves as a “lone wolf,” which means their preference is to keep an extremely small circle of friends, and not ask for help unless it’s absolutely necessary. This results in most INFJ personality types being not only selfsufficient, but also hyperindependent, and relying on this quality of hyperindependence to get them through life.

Being a lone wolf can be positive for INFJ personality types, as they tend to be very selfdirected in the workplace and they can go for long periods of time on their own, immersed in their own projects, without needing constant social interaction. However, it’s also quite common for INFJ personality types to attach themselves to the mindset of being a lone wolf and idealize their own hyperindependence to the point where they never ask for help from anyone, and they become convinced that they need to do everything on their own. This can lead to extreme stress and burnout. It can also lead to the INFJ becoming convinced that it’s impossible to trust anyone else. Within this type of lone wolf mindset, asking for help is a sign of weakness and any indication of vulnerability is dangerous.

An INFJ who is struggling deep in the grip of lone wolf syndrome ends up feeling very alone, isolated, and misunderstood, because they have cut themselves off from connecting and collaborating with others. This heightens the INFJ’s natural introversion and that results in increased social anxiety for INFJs.

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