Alright team, this is one of the biggest guides yet! There were a TON of requests to cover this one, so I happily obliged. This attachment style is also called "disorganized attachment", and I've worked with a ton of men who have it. So let's dig in on what fearfulavoidant attachment is, how it affects relationships, and how to move back towards something more secure, authentic, and thriving with easy, deliberate steps.

(00:00:00) Intro and defining fearfulavoidant attachment, and how conflicting it can feel
(00:08:20) Where this attachment style starts, and what makes it different from anxious and avoidant
(00:13:50) What does fearfulavoidant look like in a relationship?
(00:16:19) What builds a fearfulavoidant style? Neglect and/or inconsistency
(00:24:22) One of the most important (and unspoken) needs of a child
(00:29:19) Parentification, one of the most common causes of fearfulavoidant attachment
(00:32:35) Exposure to heightened levels of conflict
(00:38:24) On being disappointed by others, protection from rejection, and concentration
(00:43:10) So what do we do? Two BIG steps
(00:46:58) On how to selfregulate/selfsoothe, and starting with the breath
(00:52:02) Find someone to help you work with your hypervigilance
(00:55:00) Develop consistent connection with your partner (or with friends). Here’s how
(00:58:56) Build trust. Slowly. Over time
(01:01:53) Set boundaries with the fearbased thoughts in your head

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