By loading kids with high expectations and micromanaging their lives at every turn, parents aren't actually helping. At least, that's how Julie LythcottHaims sees it. With passion and wry humor, the former Dean of Freshmen at Stanford makes the case for parents to stop defining their children's success via grades and test scores. Instead, she says, they should focus on providing the oldest idea of all: unconditional love.

Whether you’re just launching your adult life or finally giving yourself permission to question assumptions about adulthood, learn practical strategies to build a future that fits you from Julie LythcottHaims. Enroll in her TED Course “How to become be your best adult self” today: https://tedtalks.social/3OmpymZ

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