Have you thought that you were feeling behind in your 20s in comparison to others? Or just life in general? In this video, I address the feelings associated with feeling like you're behind in life and somehow have to get back on track. I recently felt this way, which is why I wanted to share my thought process on how I handle them.

The first thing I remind myself is that happiness is a choice. More specifically, it's an active decision that I make whether I feel like it or not. I always thought success (which led to happiness) came in the form of spending time at the beach with a pretty girl while owning a large house and having no cares or problems in the world. "Once I have these things, I'll be happy." In reality, this fantasy could maybe exist for a couple hours, but otherwise it fades quickly. Problems will always come sooner or later. We predict how we will feel when certain events occur through affective forecasting, but we tend to be inaccurate when we make these predictions. With a house comes maintenance. With all that time in the sun comes sunburn. No matter what, problems will always come around.

That is why we cannot wait for happiness to come to us IF or WHEN something happens. Because once we attain said thing, the high quickly fades and we continue to search for the next thing. Stop looking for that next thing and simply be happy now. However, if you are unhappy where you are in life, how will you get from point A to point B?

To achieve any goal or outcome, one must create a process or system that they can stand by. This process must not only transfer a person from one state to another, it also must be a process that one will enjoy partaking in, otherwise a person will quit or revert to old habits. It is the reason why fad diets do not work: they aren't sustainable long term.

The next thing I do is delete social media (or stay off of it.) Social media creates a distorted reality where you only see milestones and achievements of others, all within the swipe of a thumb. It's easy to think people have done all these amazing things or somehow created overnight success when you read all of their posts in one sitting. Comparison is the thief of joy, and we must not compare our step 1 to another person's step 20. Stay in your lane and just focus to be better than you were yesterday.

Hope this was helpful! Take care, guys.

Chapters:
0:00 Intro
1:30 The thing about happiness
5:17 Focus on your process
6:12 Stay off social media
7:37 Final thoughts

Disclaimer:
All ideas here are for entertainment purposes only.